3 things never to talk about


People say you should never talk politics or religion with friends (you could throw footy in there with some).

I’ll add schooling preferences in there as well. It is an argument not worth winning.

You’ve probably heard it before, “I didn’t go to a private school and I’ve done alright” or “so and so went to the local high school and he’s a multi millionaire”.

I read an interesting article in a Saturday newspaper recently comparing kids coming through public and private schools in regards to their readiness for the AFL (Australian Football League) system.

Looking at the data, players from private schools are coming into the system a long way ahead of those from public schools in terms of coping with the professionalism required.

The debate around public vs private school regularly comes up with people I associate with, usually after a few drinks have been consumed, and it was this article that spawned my last “conversation” on the topic and reasoning for putting down my thoughts.

Before I go further let me lay out these things:
1. I went to a catholic high school, definitely not private and not public;
2. My kids have/are attending a private school; and
3. I sometimes question the cost/wisdom of our choice for number 2

The reasons I have chosen to send my kids to private school are the experiences, opportunities and beyond all, playing the percentages; if this isn’t the advantage of a private school education then there a lot of highly educated, smart people wasting their hard earned (not to mention the parents busting their backsides, going without to give their children a leg up).

I suppose the gist of the before-mentioned article backs up my argument.

My friends usually bring up 2 topics that stem from talking private schooling:

1. Private schools are a waste of money, they know heaps of people from public schools who have done better than people they know from private schools.

2. It isn’t fair that private school education holds more weight than a public school education – this is in reference to comparing two resumes of people you do not know and having to choose one to interview (maybe a bit of unconscious bias here, which we all have).

The unfortunate reality is that we are not all in a position to have the choice to send our kids to a private school; I know and respect that and it is probably why I didn’t go to one.

And yes there are some who make the choice not to; we are different and it would be a boring place if we weren’t.

When someone has a choice and another doesn’t, the conversation usually goes just one way and not the good way, again especially in a social setting with a few drinks.

From a job perspective, should the school one attended come into the equation? There are a lot of factors as to should it or shouldn’t it.

From my perspective sending my kids to a private school is an investment I made in them as people and I would hope that the rounded experience gained from this would help them get the jump on those that haven’t. If I haven’t achieved that then my investment decision hasn’t been great has it?

Like politics and religion, discussing the merits of sending your kids to private schools when you are and they aren’t (and visa versa) can only lead one way and it is a way you don’t want to go.


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